Ok, so I've been dating this woman for about a year and a half. We fit almost perfectly with each other. I really care about her and it seems she does me as well. We get along on virtually every front.
Tonight we were talking about the Cleveland Cavaliers and somehow we got sidetracked onto Chevy Cavaliers. I mentioned that I had to take driver's Ed in one 30 years ago and what a piece of crap it was. Well, it just so happens that she used to own one in the past and was quite happy with it. She felt like somehow I was insulting her on her car choice.
Let me preface all of this by saying I'm a few tax brackets up from her but that means nothing at all to me. I have my new TL, and a Porsche Boxster S and have always been a car guy. I've also driven my share of clunckers. Many $50 cars from Pinto's and Maverick's to Vega's and AMC's. I've worked hard to get where I am and I'm certainly not well off, I've just prioritized my work and money so I can have the cars I want.
She now drives a Pontiac G6. Not what I would classify as an "awesome" automobile but she likes it and that's all that really matters. I obviously hurt her feelings when I bashed an old car she used to own.(she likened it to the G6 she currently drives and extrapolated that I obviously hate the car she has now). I tried explaining that my love of cars should have nothing to do with her satisfaction with her own ride.
Again, I don't look at myself and think I'm better than her or anything by any means. And in the end she apologized for being over emotional about a stupid car that she doesn't even have anymore. None of this would probably ever even be an issue if I just drove an old Chevy truck or whatever.
I see this woman as a keeper and really want a future with her. This spat was very minor but it kind of underlies the feelings she has about either my money or my love of cars.
How would you handle it?
Tonight we were talking about the Cleveland Cavaliers and somehow we got sidetracked onto Chevy Cavaliers. I mentioned that I had to take driver's Ed in one 30 years ago and what a piece of crap it was. Well, it just so happens that she used to own one in the past and was quite happy with it. She felt like somehow I was insulting her on her car choice.
Let me preface all of this by saying I'm a few tax brackets up from her but that means nothing at all to me. I have my new TL, and a Porsche Boxster S and have always been a car guy. I've also driven my share of clunckers. Many $50 cars from Pinto's and Maverick's to Vega's and AMC's. I've worked hard to get where I am and I'm certainly not well off, I've just prioritized my work and money so I can have the cars I want.
She now drives a Pontiac G6. Not what I would classify as an "awesome" automobile but she likes it and that's all that really matters. I obviously hurt her feelings when I bashed an old car she used to own.(she likened it to the G6 she currently drives and extrapolated that I obviously hate the car she has now). I tried explaining that my love of cars should have nothing to do with her satisfaction with her own ride.
Again, I don't look at myself and think I'm better than her or anything by any means. And in the end she apologized for being over emotional about a stupid car that she doesn't even have anymore. None of this would probably ever even be an issue if I just drove an old Chevy truck or whatever.
I see this woman as a keeper and really want a future with her. This spat was very minor but it kind of underlies the feelings she has about either my money or my love of cars.
How would you handle it?